So you’ve invited all of your friends and family to your wedding, how exciting! Now, with all of the RSVP’s swarming into your mailbox, it’s time to get organized and find everyone a spot to sit!
To Number or Not to Number
We typically see that tables are numbered, and for good reason, it helps everyone understand the layout of the room, and you can easily find people when they say they’re at a particular table. However, you may want to consider not numbering your table and use cities, mountains, colors, or something special between the two of you instead.
Here’s why, when you number tables people automatically assume the lower the number, the better friends you are with the couple. This isn’t true! Sometimes, finding people seats with other people they like or would like means you’re seated at a higher numbered table. This can be especially hard if your parents are divorced and would prefer to sit in separate locations, what parents get the lower numbered table?
Typically the parents of the couple would sit opposite each other with the grandparents and other close relatives (the officiant too). However, as we mentioned earlier, some parents may be divorced so consider the option of each parent and their spouse to host their own table close to the front of the room to defuse any awkwardness that could have arisen otherwise.
Don’t Over Think Friends
Your wedding venue will typically tell you the table sizes they are using and the amount of people that can be seated at each table. Also, remember that people will only be sitting for a short while during dinner at the reception. Everyone will want to mingle during cocktail hour, and then it’s on your feet to dance the night away!
You just need to make sure that the people at the table will get along for that short window of sitting time. Most of your friends will get along with your other friends, that’s why you’re friends with them in the first place! Just don’t sit the two political talkers from each side at the same table for everyone else’s sake.
No need to stress though that every table has the perfect mix of people, just remember that people are most comfortable when they know some of their seated companions. Not even your most sociable friend will want to sit at a table full of complete strangers, so put acquaintances together when you can.
If you have a friend that may not know anyone else, that childhood friend from a different state that hasn’t met any of your buddies; then you could think of allowing them a plus one (even if you aren’t allowing them across the board) and seat them near guests with similar interests.
Don’t Forget the Kids!
If you’re allowing children at your wedding, try to put all kids 5 and up at a table of their own. If the child is under 5, consider placing them with their parents as they might not be comfortable at a table without them. If your flower girl and ring bearer are the only children present, most definitely seat them with their parents.