Best Man Responsibilities

So your best friend is getting married, he asks you to be his best man. Is that just a title? What do I need to do to be a “Best Man”? Am I now Kevin Hart in Wedding Ringer?

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Here is everything you should know about being the best Best Man:

Plan an Epic Bachelor Party

This is one of your first responsibilities. You need to not only throw an epic Bachelor Party, but you need to make sure it is the party the groom wants. Not everyone is excited to hit the Las Vegas Strip, sometimes keeping it low key is exactly what your friend needs.

Some alternatives to Vegas:

  1. A ski trip! You can spend the day skiing and riding (right here at our NH slopes!) then end the day in the pub (we have an amazing staff at the Sled Pub and live music on Friday and Saturday!).
  2. Racing cars can be a perfect thrill. New Hampshire Motor Speedway hold a true NASCAR Experience or you could head down to Massachusetts to F1 Boston to race in a Formula 1 car.
  3. Video games can be a perfectly relaxing day for the groom. Even if you don’t have a video game system, you can call Rolling Video Games of NH to come to your house with everything you need! Then you can order in some tasty treats for the food and call it a party.
  4. Road trip the weekend. Grab the groom and a few good friends and spend the weekend traveling around your area to find the best beaches or the greatest BBQ.

Pay Attention before the Wedding

You need to listen to not only the groom but the bride as well. Know when the suit fittings will be and make sure the rest of the groomsmen are aware they need to be there and will be there.

Know the timing of the ceremony by listening at the rehearsal. Make sure you know what needs to happen on the day and when, just in case!

Write the Best Speech

Thanks to The Knot, the have created the Best Man Speech Outline

  • Have a killer opening line.
  • Thank the other speakers.
  • Congratulate the wedding couple.
  • Compliment the bride.
  • Make a joke about the groom.
  • Read messages from guests who couldn’t make it, if there are any.
  • Quote a few famous lines or a poem.
  • Propose a toast.

Have Fun!

Weddings should always be fun, so make sure to have fun yourself!

Wedding Superstitions

A look into how some of the most popular wedding superstitions became staples in American culture.

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Something old, something new, something borrowed, something blue

This tradition migrated to the United States from an Old English rhyme, “Something Olde, Something New, Something Borrowed, Something Blue, A Sixpence in your Shoe”. The four objects each bride carries on her special day are simply good luck charms. The something old represents the bride’s past, something new represents the bride’s future, something borrowed should be from a happily married couple for the luck to rub off on the newly weds, and something blue for fidelity and love.

Wearing a veil

In the Roman era, brides wore a veil to disguise themselves from evil spirits. The evil spirits were thought to be jealous of a bride’s happiness.

Carrying the bride over the threshold

This superstition came about also because of evil spirits but in Medieval Europe. It was believed that brides were extra vulnerable to evil spirits through the soles of their feet and to avoid any evil spirit getting to the bride, the groom would carry her into their new home.

Breaking of the glass

When a Jewish couple marries, it has become tradition to break a wine glass. Now, this has been known to be done for several reasons, a symbol of the destruction of the Temple in Jerusalem, a symbol that they have changed together and will never be the people they were apart, a start to the party, and the number of pieces the glass breaks are the number of happily married years they will spend together.

Jumping over the broom

Jumping over a broom after the “I Do’s” came from African origin and symbolizes the couple is jumping into their new lives together. They are leaving their past behind and starting their lives together.

The color red

In many Chinese weddings, brides will wear dresses or traditional clothing that is red. The color red has been known to be associated with success, loyalty, honor, fertility, and love.

Unlucky numbers

In Japanese cultures, the numbers 4 and 9 are considered to be bad luck. In Western cultures the number 13 is considered to be bad luck. Giving couples money, as a gift should not end with 4, 9, or 13 and other gifts should not consist of 4, 9, or 13 items.

Ringing bells

The Irish traditionally believed that ringing bells at weddings would warn off any evil spirits and ensure a harmonious family life.

Raining on your wedding day

Many may think that rain on your wedding day is a bad omen, but many cultures believe that rain on your wedding day symbolizes fertility and cleansing.

Seeing each other before the ceremony

Many couples believe seeing one another before the ceremony is bad luck. This tradition dates back to when arranged marriages were the norm. Some believed that if the groom saw the bride before marriage and she was not what he expected, he would call off the wedding.

You may wish to continue any and all traditions you find near to your heart. Don’t fret if you want to stray from tradition, this is your day

Cheers! Let’s Create your Signature Drink

You’ve given your utmost attention to even the smallest of details throughout your wedding planning. Now, let’s talk about just one more! Creating a signature drink (or two) for you wedding will not only be memorable for your guests, but every year you and your husband can make that drink to celebrate!

What is Your Go-To Drink?

To create a signature drink that you’ll actually love, you need to start with looking at both of your standard order. Leanne Strickler, the head mixologist and signature-cocktail-crafting pro with Blue Plate in Chicago, places drinks in four categories:

  1. Strong like a Manhattan
  2. Sour like a Tom Collins
  3. Sweet like a French martini
  4. Low alcohol, with something like sparkling wine as the base

This will help determine the alcohol level of your drink and will start giving you a better idea of the flavor profile.

What’s Trending?

Looking at the latest trends can bring lots of new ideas to the table. We all know the seasonal trends, spices for the Autumn, lemonade for the Summer, and floral for the Spring, but you can also use the flavor combinations of the now!

You can also incorporate trending colors. However, we encourage you to stay away from trying to make the drink a different color and include the color through garnishes. 

Bring in Your Style

This is your drink, drawing in your style can be one of the best ways to add your personality into this drink. This could be your personal everyday style of the theme of your wedding. If you’re having a rustic wedding, think about including a spin on old favorites; instead of just a Jack and Ginger, take a nice bottle of Jack Daniels, add in half teaspoon of honey with some fresh ginger and top the drink off with soda water.

 

After you Book your Wedding Venue

Hooray you survived the venue search process! You schlepped through countless search sites (The Knot, Wedding Wire and who knows how many others!) You listened to countless opinions from family, friends and even your coworker Margaret. You set up several venue viewing appointments and met with professional after professional. You swirled dates and timeframes around and finally nailed one down and signed the contract! Great! You’re well on your way to your wedding day! …Now what?!?

After you have secured your wedding venue, stay in touch with your venue’s Banquet Manager or Wedding Planner to:

        1. Schedule a Meeting Time
        2. Discuss Decorations
        3. Choose a Menu
        4. Know your Bar and Beverage Options
        5. Create your Wedding Day Timeline
        6. And discuss many more details that will help to personalize your day! Ask your venue’s Banquet Manager or your Wedding Planner what you should be doing/planning/asking for questions and what they will need from you next. They have a lot of insight and knowledge to help you!

Schedule a Meeting

Finding a time to sit down and go over all details and information with your Wedding Venue Coordinator is beneficial for both you and your venue. This gives you a chance to discuss your ideas and thoughts and make sure it will work with your venue’s dimensions, time frame, and if they will need extra staff to help with some of your plans. This is also a good time to get information that you may need to pass along to your other vendors for their planning purposes.

Discuss Decorations

In the meeting, make sure to talk about what you think you’ll be doing for decorations. You should be open in discussing this with the venue because they have so much experience in weddings and they can even give you some ideas to work off of!

Also be aware that you may need to alter some of your decoration choices, for example some venues may not allow open flame candles but if they do, they may ask you to fully enclose the flame. For example by placing the candle in a hurricane vase or lantern.

Photos by Cheetah Design Studio

Choosing a Menu

Now, this can be one of the best parts of planning a wedding! Choosing your menu personally adds the perfect tailored touch to your special day! ! We suggest that you sit down with the Chef and/or Wedding Venue Coordinator at your venueto review all of your options and their recommendations. It is also helpful to have the Chef’s suggestions as to what will pair well together, what will complement the taste of an entrée or side dish and they can also make suggestions as to the time of year and what ingredients are in season. Don’t forget to ask about special dietary needs, most venues will accommodate those with allergies and vegetarians/vegans.

Know your Bar and Beverage Options

Some venues offer a variety of choices for your bar including an open bar, a cash bar, drink tickets, punch bowls, or even a specialty drink item at your wedding! If you are planning a brunch menu, think Mimosa or Bloody Mary bar to celebrate with! If you or your fiancé have a certain drink that the venue doesn’t currently offer or have on tap, ask them what it might take to bring it in. (Keep in mind there may be an extra fee for certain options, be sure to ask so that you are well aware.) The bar is another great place to add your personal touch so have some fun with it!

Create Your Wedding Day Timeline

Make sure you work with your wedding venue to schedule out your day. This helps your Wedding Venue Coordinator to know what you want your wedding day to look like. They can help you to arrange the order of events or make suggestions as to when formalities should take place.  At Pats Peak we like to start with a suggested timeline and make the changes that our couples like to create their perfect day! Here is a blank copy of our timeline and worksheet to show you a typical order of a reception: Pats Peak Timeline Worksheet.

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You can plan every single detail down to the military minute, but one thing to keep in mind is that “things happen.” Rely on your day-of coordinator to help make that adjustments as necessary. Be prepared to enjoy your day no matter what comes your way, you’ve planned everything out and it will result in an amazing memory!

Photos by Gallant Photography

Authentically New Hampshire Rustic

It’s no secret that our brides have typically gone for the more rustic themes on their wedding day, and we can’t blame them! We are located in beautiful New Hampshire surrounded by the mountains, the foliage, and the ideal country life. That’s why we find it important to showcase all the ways we can celebrate love while appreciating the beauty that surrounds us.

Wedding Venue

Each couple always needs to take into consideration where they want their wedding to be. Start thinking about your guest count, your wedding theme, the policy for unpredictable weather, the food choices, and if your date is available. You may have a couple locations that will work so make sure you are looking at venues in those areas.

If you even spend just a few hours here in New Hampshire, you’ll start to see the many options to choose from if you are looking for that rustic style! From our mountain ranges to our lakes, you will have the perfect backdrop for all of your photos! We even have several venues (including us, Pats Peak Banquet Center!) that are positioned on a mountain and offer summit weddings. What’s not to love about feeling like you’re on top of the world as you look out beyond yourself?

Wedding Décor

Having a rustic wedding doesn’t always mean burlap and mason jars, even though we will always love them! You can utilize everything that reminds you of sitting outside at a bonfire on a summer evening, the smell of s’mores roasting in the fire and leaves falling all around.

Think about utilizing that small tree that needs to come down on your property and all those gorgeous maple leaves and pine cones falling around you and turning them into the perfect wedding favors!

Taking a look at our real New Hampshire brides, they have unique rustic weddings ideas that fit them perfectly!

Food & Drink

The food and drink you choose for your wedding should be what you want to eat and drink! Think about creating a seasonal menu and suggestions from the chef, but ultimately choose based off of your pallet. You should also consider creating a customized cocktail or drink for both the bride and the groom!

Start by thinking what is your go-to drink along with what’s trending or in-season and make it your own! Put a spin on old favorites; instead of just a Jack and Ginger, take a nice bottle of Jack Daniels, add in half teaspoon of honey with some fresh ginger and top the drink off with soda water.